What happens when the bush meat chases the hunter?
An hunter is supposed to search for bush meat in the forest and hunt for it, but when the bush meat begins to pursue the hunter, there would be a cause for alarm and that's dangerous.
These days, so many women have resorted to proposing to a man. Last week, I saw a picture of a lady proposing to her fiance on her knees and I was like ," hehehehe, now she is the hunter."
In this African age, culture stipulates that the man weds a woman and does all the proposal processes but at a later time in this ongoing future, some people began to see a need for reversal. They felt they could inculcate the foreign culture and flow with the trend. They bemoaned the idea of a man doing it all.
Well, before I state my views, I would love to add the views of some friends on this same topic.
Question: Do you think a woman should propose to a man?
From the Men:
-----"He who finds a wife not she who finds a husband. If she had fallen in love, I will only advise she create an enabling environment for me to pop the question and not her doing it. She can ask me "Hey bobo, what is going on? Me and you know that we are not related?" By Matthew Adedoyin of Abstinence Icon.
----"As for me, a woman may propose to a man but I would not subscribe to her doing it verbally. She should use non-verbal ways of expression. A sensitive man will pick the message, he won't pick a message of 'she wants me to have a relationship with me' which can put him off, instead he will pick a message of 'I think she likes me - she really likes me', and that can endear the man more to the woman and hopefully compel him to spill the beans.
Caring for him more than every one else, paying attention, speaking his love language regularly. Also, being in his face and words all the time but communicating with him based on the things that stimulates his interests". By Gabriel Olatunji of http://ift.tt/1nx1N8M
-----"I feel more excited and accomplished when I make her feel like a woman by being the one to propose. She smiles and then says "Yes" while I propose, that makes me feel manly but if she proposed and I say yes, that would make me feel like a sissy. She proposing shows desperation and I don't like desperados". By Nyakno Obong
------"I don't exactly see a problem with it. It doesn't mean she should go all out and literally do it though, best all she could do is give the guy signs that he would pick on.
PS: She must be certain the guy likes her even a little bit". By Adewale Ademola
-----"It has happened to me before and am not the kind of person that finds it easy to propose. It's not actually bad especially when the guy is not sure of the ladies feelings for him. Although Africans see it as being cheap, I see it as being real. I don't advise a woman to ask a guy that doesn't really love her out, she would be taken for granted.
I then asked: "What if she is not sure of the love and they have been friends for like two years?
He continued that: "The best a woman can do is to ask where the relationship is getting to. Is there any definition? Though she might be taking the lead that way" By Seun Emmanuel Alaofin of Sea Publications.
----"I don't like it. I wouldn't trust her. I would feel she can do the same to any other man. Won't respect that approach". By Folayemi Itunu of Relationship Capsules and Pholarstudios
----"It depends on her. If she is okay with it. She can propose. I can't determine what is right or not for anyone. She may if she feels like". By Dr Malik Haruna
From the ladies point of view:
----"The Bible said he that findeth a man not she that findeth a husband. God would have created Eve first if that's the case. There is a place of positioning but not wooing. The man has to do the search and the chasing. It makes them feel good. A man won't respect such woman because she acted cheap and might turn to other ladies that would make him feel like a man. She should allow him do it". By Dorathy Ndidi (Adorable Oma) of Bruised but healed Ministry
----"No, it's wrong. Our culture and religion doesn't permit it". By Lewa Nuggets
----"It's wrong for a lady to do that. She is not the man. She can only position herself for the guy and not act as the man. There are ways to give him the green light". By Rachel Thom Manuel.
----"The proposal should come from a man because there is a pride and ego attached to it". By ChiAmaka Onyia
My view:
It's not about what the culture thinks or what the tradition says but I will like to state that there was no place in the Bible which should be our manual, where a woman proposed to a man.
Ruth only positioned herself properly for the man to sight her and he did. She didn't beg him to love her. There are various reasons why it should not be encouraged. Though it has worked for so many people but some have fallen victims into the wrong hands in that process.
If he is meant for you, he would surely realize it someday as you position yourself.
There is nothing wrong in it like you may think, its just a misuse of roles. Some married men could claim that it was their wives that proposed to them, that's their luck. I have seen a guy who said that his uncle was proposed to by his wife and he doesn't mind a woman doing the same to him. Our lives are different.
So why is it wrong for a woman to propose?
Our gender roles are different. A man feels confident when he can talk to a woman, get her attention and make her feel wholesome. He loves the chase and enjoys the game. He finds way of how to get closer and more romantic, this should be a continuous stage even In marriage but most men drop the vibe few years after the wedding bells.
Some would feel that a woman is being too forward about it. A man is meant to take lead roles in a relationship but a woman can create the environment. The man is the head of his wife so he has to pick what's best for him. Women are created as helpmeet, it's always better when a woman sight the need and propose to a woman.
Sometimes when a woman claims to be in love with a man, she would do all she can to make it work including proposing and most times ,the man may feel pressured. A man must decide who he would end up with and hence, work towards getting the prize.
A gift is more treasured than a freebie. A gift is given by a special person while a freebie is given by anyone and it's mostly cheap.
Let the hunter get you. Don't be desperate. It might work for you though but please keep your pride for the man who values it.
I'm sure you either agree or oppose, please drop your comment and let us know the answers to the questions with your reasons.
For more relationship tips visit http://ift.tt/1MhURdK.
An hunter is supposed to search for bush meat in the forest and hunt for it, but when the bush meat begins to pursue the hunter, there would be a cause for alarm and that's dangerous.
These days, so many women have resorted to proposing to a man. Last week, I saw a picture of a lady proposing to her fiance on her knees and I was like ," hehehehe, now she is the hunter."
In this African age, culture stipulates that the man weds a woman and does all the proposal processes but at a later time in this ongoing future, some people began to see a need for reversal. They felt they could inculcate the foreign culture and flow with the trend. They bemoaned the idea of a man doing it all.
Well, before I state my views, I would love to add the views of some friends on this same topic.
Question: Do you think a woman should propose to a man?
From the Men:
-----"He who finds a wife not she who finds a husband. If she had fallen in love, I will only advise she create an enabling environment for me to pop the question and not her doing it. She can ask me "Hey bobo, what is going on? Me and you know that we are not related?" By Matthew Adedoyin of Abstinence Icon.
----"As for me, a woman may propose to a man but I would not subscribe to her doing it verbally. She should use non-verbal ways of expression. A sensitive man will pick the message, he won't pick a message of 'she wants me to have a relationship with me' which can put him off, instead he will pick a message of 'I think she likes me - she really likes me', and that can endear the man more to the woman and hopefully compel him to spill the beans.
Caring for him more than every one else, paying attention, speaking his love language regularly. Also, being in his face and words all the time but communicating with him based on the things that stimulates his interests". By Gabriel Olatunji of http://ift.tt/1nx1N8M
-----"I feel more excited and accomplished when I make her feel like a woman by being the one to propose. She smiles and then says "Yes" while I propose, that makes me feel manly but if she proposed and I say yes, that would make me feel like a sissy. She proposing shows desperation and I don't like desperados". By Nyakno Obong
------"I don't exactly see a problem with it. It doesn't mean she should go all out and literally do it though, best all she could do is give the guy signs that he would pick on.
PS: She must be certain the guy likes her even a little bit". By Adewale Ademola
-----"It has happened to me before and am not the kind of person that finds it easy to propose. It's not actually bad especially when the guy is not sure of the ladies feelings for him. Although Africans see it as being cheap, I see it as being real. I don't advise a woman to ask a guy that doesn't really love her out, she would be taken for granted.
I then asked: "What if she is not sure of the love and they have been friends for like two years?
He continued that: "The best a woman can do is to ask where the relationship is getting to. Is there any definition? Though she might be taking the lead that way" By Seun Emmanuel Alaofin of Sea Publications.
----"I don't like it. I wouldn't trust her. I would feel she can do the same to any other man. Won't respect that approach". By Folayemi Itunu of Relationship Capsules and Pholarstudios
----"It depends on her. If she is okay with it. She can propose. I can't determine what is right or not for anyone. She may if she feels like". By Dr Malik Haruna
From the ladies point of view:
----"The Bible said he that findeth a man not she that findeth a husband. God would have created Eve first if that's the case. There is a place of positioning but not wooing. The man has to do the search and the chasing. It makes them feel good. A man won't respect such woman because she acted cheap and might turn to other ladies that would make him feel like a man. She should allow him do it". By Dorathy Ndidi (Adorable Oma) of Bruised but healed Ministry
----"No, it's wrong. Our culture and religion doesn't permit it". By Lewa Nuggets
----"It's wrong for a lady to do that. She is not the man. She can only position herself for the guy and not act as the man. There are ways to give him the green light". By Rachel Thom Manuel.
----"The proposal should come from a man because there is a pride and ego attached to it". By ChiAmaka Onyia
My view:
It's not about what the culture thinks or what the tradition says but I will like to state that there was no place in the Bible which should be our manual, where a woman proposed to a man.
Ruth only positioned herself properly for the man to sight her and he did. She didn't beg him to love her. There are various reasons why it should not be encouraged. Though it has worked for so many people but some have fallen victims into the wrong hands in that process.
If he is meant for you, he would surely realize it someday as you position yourself.
There is nothing wrong in it like you may think, its just a misuse of roles. Some married men could claim that it was their wives that proposed to them, that's their luck. I have seen a guy who said that his uncle was proposed to by his wife and he doesn't mind a woman doing the same to him. Our lives are different.
So why is it wrong for a woman to propose?
Our gender roles are different. A man feels confident when he can talk to a woman, get her attention and make her feel wholesome. He loves the chase and enjoys the game. He finds way of how to get closer and more romantic, this should be a continuous stage even In marriage but most men drop the vibe few years after the wedding bells.
Some would feel that a woman is being too forward about it. A man is meant to take lead roles in a relationship but a woman can create the environment. The man is the head of his wife so he has to pick what's best for him. Women are created as helpmeet, it's always better when a woman sight the need and propose to a woman.
Sometimes when a woman claims to be in love with a man, she would do all she can to make it work including proposing and most times ,the man may feel pressured. A man must decide who he would end up with and hence, work towards getting the prize.
A gift is more treasured than a freebie. A gift is given by a special person while a freebie is given by anyone and it's mostly cheap.
Let the hunter get you. Don't be desperate. It might work for you though but please keep your pride for the man who values it.
I'm sure you either agree or oppose, please drop your comment and let us know the answers to the questions with your reasons.
For more relationship tips visit http://ift.tt/1MhURdK.
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